Fabulous Fridays!!!

I've decided that I want to dedicate my Friday blogs to all of us beautiful fat women and how FABULOUS we really are.  

Society sends a lot of messages to women about how un-fabulous we are and how we should all be striving to be something other than what we are presently.  If you're fat, you're told that you're unattractive and slovenly.  If you're skinny you're told that you look like an anorexic stick.  There is no pleasing "society".  So don't try.  

Instead, try to please yourself.  Realize the AMAZING person you already are in whatever body you're in.  

The body you live in today is the body that's going to get you to tomorrow.  

You are beautiful just the way you are - right now - today!  Most of us (myself included, obviously) are trying to change our bodies to our ideal.  We want healthy, strong and fit bodies.  And that's a good goal.  But I firmly believe that to achieve those goals, we have to LOVE our body exactly as it is today.

So, Fridays are going to be all about Finding Our Fabulousness!  (So what if that's not a word!)  Every Friday, I'm going to have some kind of body image improvement exercise for us all to do.  

Here is today's:

Find five things that you really like about yourself right now.

Now, although character traits are important (much more important than physical attributes, of course) this exercise is about fixing our negative BODY image issues, so I don't want us to focus on all of our wonderful character traits.

Instead find five things about your body (or face - but try to focus more on your body) that you like.  It may seem like a lot of emphasis to put on our body, but that's the point.  As fat women we either IGNORE our bodies or HATE our bodies.  So, by actually thinking about them and examining them, it will help us to get in touch with them.  And if we know them better, we may come to love them and realize the beauty of our bodies, just as they are.

So, without further ado, here are my five:  (Btw, I really do LOVE the "ado", as you might have guessed from my mammoth blogs - and my inability to simply say, "without further ado"!)

1. My eyes.  I like my eyes because they change colour (they're hazel) depending on my mood and my clothing.  I think that's cool.  I was also blessed with long eyelashes, so I don't have to wear mascara very often.  (See, I had to start with the face, cause it's TOUGH to find "body things" that I like.)
2. My feet.  It may seem bizarre since there is really no such thing as "attractive feet".  (Unless you have some kind of odd foot fetish!)  But I like my feet.  The toes aren't too weird looking and I have a nice high arch; which admittedly can make it tough to find shoes, but which I find aesthetically pleasing.  
3. My fingernails.  (This may be stretching things, but hey - I'm working on it.)  But I do actually like my fingernails.  Again, they have a nice natural curve to them.  I only have to give them minimal attention and they still look decent.  They can look FABULOUS when they're all filed and painted.  They look great in a french manicure.
4. My skin.  It's fairly smooth, with not a lot of blemishes. I don't have overly dry or overly oily skin.  There are; of course, quite a few stretch marks, but I'm going to have to learn to live with those.  Other than that, I'm really very happy with my skin.  I like the colour (although, it could be a tad less pasty.) and the texture.
5. My legs.  After much consideration, I have decided that, YES, I DO like my legs.  They may be pretty flabby at the moment and too big for society's standards, but we've already decided to blow a big raspberry at society.  So I'll go ahead and say; YEP, I like my legs.  They are really quite strong.  (They ARE carrying around over 300 pounds!) and they have a decent shape.  They are a little short, but I like the line of my calves.

SO!! There it is, my list of 5 things I like about my body (and face).  It was VERY hard to wrestle out that list.  And it's amazing how hard it was for me to ADMIT to liking things about myself.  It kind of felt like I had to APOLOGIZE after every list item. 

But don't apologize!  Make your own lists.  If you just CAN'T manage to come up with 5 things, then come up with 4; or 3; or 2; OR 1!!  Find ONE thing you like!!!

Come on!! You can do it - because you are FABULOUS!!!