When I first met her she seemed perfectly nice, the place was "affordable" and clean, so I snatched it up as quick as I could.
Then I started trying live with her.
She was a super tall, super skinny girl who, looking back on it now, probably had some body issues of her own. I'd like to go back in time and tell her she shouldn't need validation from others to know that she was pretty.
But at the time I just wanted to smack her. A lot.
She would come up to me ALL the time, like at least twice a day, and tell me how hard it was being pretty; that she wasn't taken seriously. She would talk about how she ate ALL the time, but just didn't gain an inch!
Then she would complain how HARD it was to find a size zero when she was shopping. "Everything is made for fat people!" she'd tell me. Me. The 200 pound girl sitting on the couch looking up at her tall, lean body and REALLY wanting to just...poke her with a stick. Or something.
I'd try sympathizing with her; telling her, that yeah, I knew what she meant cause it was actually pretty tough for me to find nice clothes that fit too. But it was like I was talking to air. Because she would just wave away my words and launch into another speech about the difficulties of being beautiful.
And I would grind my teeth and just listen; but it was in these moments that my extreme dislike of skinny girls began.
Long after I'd left Vancouver behind and returned home, I would see skinny girls on the bus and just think; "Pfft, puffed up jerk!" The thoughts and feelings came unconsciously, but they came and it began to occur to me that I had a real prejudice against skinny girls.
It is completely unfair, since skinny girls, the ones who can eat crap all the time and not gain an inch, can't control the way their bodies work any easier than we fat girls can. Their metabolisms are just naturally very fast and mine is just naturally very slow.
It is NOT their fault that our current societal norms have them as models and us as jokes.
And these little pictures that go around on Facebook, like this one:
REALLY have to stop!
For one thing, why the hell are we determining our worth as women, based on a MAN'S sexual preferences!!
Secondly, are we really telling our skinny sisters that they're only fit for dogs? That's terrible! This war between women, that's based on the shape of our bodies and a ridiculous competition over what we think men want in "their women" has GOT to stop.
As women we all face the same societal pressures to live up to a completely unrealistic ideal. We need to fight those pressures TOGETHER!!
So, I promise to stop seeing my skinny sisters as the enemy and start seeing them as fellow warriors.
Just...just please don't tell me how hard you work to gain weight! ;)
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